To ultimately achieve a state where nothing can penetrate our peace. Not even scratches are allowed.
However, when, no matter how hard your intruders knocks on you, and scratches are the most they can get, you are almost there.
We must strip ourselves bare to achieve this state. No allowance given. Not even the loss of a family member can destroy our peace, lest a bit of wealth and dignity.
“Heartless you!”, you may say.
Be grateful and rejoice with our loved ones when they are alive, rather than wallow day and night in sorrows and pity when they are gone.