The Rich Gets Richer

Because poor people keep making them richer.

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How Did Your Love Died?

I’m no expert in love. Just an observer.

I see many examples of couples love dying off after awhile. 6 months. 1 year. 5 years. 20 years. Or even later.

The passion dies off. The dream vanishes. The fantasy feeling when two lovers just met. No more hands holding. No more kissing. No more cuddling.

They started to come home late, tired after a long day. During weekends, the husband may spend his afternoon on the newspaper and the wife on the housework. They may go bring their kids out but that’s the only thing that they do together. While at night, both may be more interested in their own phones than one another. Sounds familiar?

Can we keep the flame burning? We don’t want it to just burn, we want our flame to be burning brightly. The good thing is that it is possible. The question is are we willing to work towards it?

Do we need to be rich to be able to do so? If that’s the case, there won’t be any separations among Hollywood couples. In fact, if you are looking for a long-lasting love, Hollywood may be the last place you’ll want to turn to. So no, you don’t have to be rich.

Most of us have very wrong priorities. So wrong that if our kids would be following our examples, we’ll be spanking them hard. We need to really understand what is important to us. Is our partner important? Then how much time and effort are you investing onto them? 5 minutes a day? That really shows a lot.

When we have been in a relationship for a long time, it is normal to feel mundane. But it is up to us to change it or accept it. Don’t expect or wait for our partner to do something. We are 50% shareholder to our marriage. Put aside our ego.

Do we still date like we used to? No need for a Paris trip every quarter. But do we still go out for a dinner and a movie? Do we still surprise our partner with small gestures, and yes, gifts? Do we still give a massage to our partners when they come home from work? Do we kiss them before we leave for work?

If work is too much, it is not the work’s fault. Is our expectation too high? Are we not capable enough to hold so much responsibilities? Is it time to change a job? Sacrificing our family for work, just because we work for our family’s expenses, is not a good reason, sorry. The only correct way is to achieve a balance between keeping your family happy and your work productive. Nobody said it was easy.

So, go home tonight. Buy a rose. Dim the lights. Do the dishes. Prepare some ylang ylang essential oil. And reignite your flame again.

A Different Kind of Happiness

As I grow older, I’m starting to see changes in the way I feel and view things around me.

In the past, I spend $100 – $200 easily over a weekend. Buy some clothes and gadgets. Spend some money in the restaurants and cafes. However, once the novelty wears off, I’m seeking the next purchase to fill the void left behind.

Nowadays, I find happiness in giving. Not giving to the merchants. But to people who need them. Like the people in the streets. Buskers. Charities.

I also enjoy taking money home. Give a little more to my mother, my wife and my grandmother. That makes me very, very happy.

People Who Have Inspired Me

For the past 2 years, there’s 5 (or 6) very prominent people who have been such huge inspirations for me.

I’ve heard how others have been inspired by them as well. There’s also some people who have said that their methods are not practical. Some even deemed them scams.

Nonetheless, the things they shared have made a lot of sense to me in a period where I’m pretty lost. And they have accompanied me through my self-realization stage.

So, here they are:

The Minimalists

Infinite Waters (Diving Deep)

Dave Ramsey

Leo Gura

Suze Orman

Does any of them inspires you as well?

Do you have anyone else that inspires you significantly?

We Are What We Are Exposed To

We are only what we are exposed to.

Remember when you’re young, you wanted to be an astronaut? Because, that’s so cool, right? How the media portray the image of an astronaut. Saving the world after a mission to destroy the asteroid and being adulated by the commoners, who owe their lives to you.

Then, reality kicks in and you realized that not everyone can be an astronaut so your mum extolled the benefits of being a doctor to you and all of a sudden, you want to be doctor. But you realized that you have spent too much time playing with your schoolmates, and too little time studying. Therefore, you were unable to qualify as a doctor based on your results.

But suddenly, a glimmer of hope appears. Who needs to be a doctor when you can be a Hollywood star? Living in a mansion, collecting cars as a hobby, and being admired by normal people all over the world. What a dream! But before you are even rich, you decide to live lavishly like one. You start buying your favourite designer bags and branded clothes. You dine in posh restaurants. Travel halfway round the world for an Instagram photo that got you 10 likes. And you started to act like a Hollywood star. The unfortunate thing is that, you’re not one yet. So you became broke and depressed.

I believe that many people can relate to the above example. It shows how one can be easily influenced in life. What we hear, what we see, affects how we feel.

If we spend all our days on the Facebook, our mind will only know what is trending on Facebook. Although it seemed like a lot since we have 500 friends each, we forgot that everyone is really just re-sharing the same thing. So probably 8 out of 10 things you sees on Facebook is what your friend sees too.

If we allow ourselves constantly to be in a violent environment, we are going to have violent mindsets. If we feed ourselves lifestyle content, we will tend to not be contented with our current life, even if you already possess the perfect lifestyle. If we are going to feed ourselves satirical content day and night, we are likely going to be thinking of jokes all the time.

These may not actually be a bad thing. The key here is to be aware, to be mindful.

Because if we want to be happy through peace, being force-fed with violent content may bring us happiness, but they will be likely acquired through violence.

If we want to be surrounded by love, reading Trump and Hillary supporters bashing one another day and night will not help us to attain real love.

If you want love, then surround yourself with people and content that spreads love. If you want money, then don’t allow other contents that distracts you from your pursuit of attaining your desired wealth.

And if you allow yourself to be exposed to junk all the time, no prize for guessing what you’ll become.

Is Peace a Hoax?

US recently signed a 110 billion arms deal with Saudi Arabia.

This is a reminder for us how heavily the economy runs on chaos.

Is peace possible when we live in a place where war and conflicts are so profitable to the people who runs it?

Maybe we will never see a peaceful world in our lifetime, but we should never give up. We must always keep out hopes alive and continuously work towards peace.

This crazy world need us these few conscious folks. And we cannot give up on her.

That’s the only way for now.