The Power of Travelling Together

I can remember vividly as my wife and I walked along Da Dong Hai Bay, Sanya. Our feet sank into the soft sands with every step we took. While strolling, we talked about life and happiness. We also talked about our future and appreciated how blessed we were.

On other days, we will be at our own office slogging away. Only to spend the last 3 or 4 hours together at home.

That’s the best thing about travelling together. We are “forced” to spend time together. Being in a faraway place. Just the two of us. Planning our itinerary together. Making decisions together.

Sometimes we have our differences. Differences on what to eat, where to go, and how much is our budget. 

But at the end of the day, we not only learn how to resolve our differences, we also get to enjoy one another’s company.


The Anatomy of Lying

When we lie, we lose a part of our true self. The more we lie, the more we lose. A person who lies all the time will probably have lost a big part of himself.

What does it mean by losing himself? It simply means that the person will accumulate sufferings in the long run. Which means that he will not just be not happy, he will live with a lot of sufferings.

It does not matter if the lie will bring you a lot of money or friends. Eventually, the fire will burn through the paper that tries to cover it.

But there is a kind of lie that is acceptable. There’s a popular tale of a group of hunters asking a passer-by if he has seen a rabbit running pass him. The passer-by pointed the other way. This saved the life of the rabbit. When a lie is intended to save a life or prevent disaster, it is acceptable, to an extent. But must be exercised with a lot cautious.

And one must be truthful to himself when qualifying the lie as a necessity. If not, he will just be deceiving himself, making himself the biggest fool.

The Dark Side of Top Sports Stars

Tiger Woods is recently back in the news lately. Fortunately, this time round, its not related to his well-known sex addictions. It brings me to a topic of why so many top sports stars just can’t seem to behave themselves.

Lance Armstrong, the best cyclist in history, cheated with performance enhancement drugs. Diego Maradona, the best footballer ever, not named Pele, have a long history with cocaine. Paul Gascoigne, widely known as the most talented English footballer ever, and George Best, the best Northern Irish footballer ever, had their health and career let down by alcoholism.

The list goes on. Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan’s heir, and his affairs during his younger days. Derrick Rose, an NBA MVP, and his recent disgraceful orgy scandal. Ryan Giggs, the most decorated English Premier League footballer, was caught with his pants down, with his sister-in-law. And there’s Chelsea FC and England Football National Team captain John Terry, who you better keep your wife away from. And who can forget O.J. Simpson.

Why are the top athletes behaving like that? When we think of them as the cream of the crop, the best of the best, god among men, we think of the years of training and discipline to achieve what they’ve achieved. The hardwork. The focus they have. The level of commitment they put in we mere mortals can never imagine.

Even in the professional wrestling scene, we have the most popular of them all, Hulk Hogan who cheated on his wife. And Mr. Wrestlemania, Shawn Michaels, who admitted to all his past demons.

All the dedication they’ve put in, yet they do not have the resillience to stay away from those temptations. In the end, succumbing to drugs, women, and alcohol. Losing their reputation, their family, their career, and some even their life.

Maybe we are too blinded by these sportsmen, who the media loves to label as superstars. 

Maybe underneath those jerseys, they are really just flesh and blood like us.

Michael Jordan is the Greatest But

It’s the NBA Finals 2017 period. Golden State Warriors vs Cleveland Cavaliers, third time. So, why am I talking about MJ on the day of the NBA Finals Game 1? Read on.

To many, Michael Jordan is the greatest basketball player ever. 

That drive. That focus. He’s determination. His discipline. Those skills. Dunks. Shooting abilities. His defensive skills. Thrash-talk. Clutch. Leadership. Acolades. Multi-time All Stars, MVPs and 6 NBA Championships. 

I can’t complain. These feats are impressive. 

Then, his two challengers to the greatest player arise in recent years. No, not Larry or Magic. Their career started before MJ. The 2 heirs to ‘His Airness’ are, of cos, Kobe Bryant and Lebron James.

Kobe Bryant, despite his 5 championships and scoring abilities, was never really considered better than MJ. Therefore, he’s probably out of the picture.

That leaves us with Lebron James. Whether he is up there or not, only time will tell. He still has about 6, 7 years before he reaches a healthy age to retire.

However, there’s one arguement is that he cannot be compared to MJ’s 6-0 finals record. 6 finals win and 0 loss. That is a fantastic achievment I can never deny. 

For the record, Lebron is 3-4. That’s an impressive record on its own. At least 3 of the finals series, Lebron’s team was the underdog. Those 3 finals that Cavaliers were in the finals. Whereas I’ll say his Miami Heat big 3 is the favourite for those 4 straight final appearances. How did he carry Cavs to the finals with Drew Gooden and Zydrunas Ilgauskas will always amaze me. Whereas MJ’s Chicago Bulls are the favourites in all of his 6 finals trips. 

Winning is everything. But losing time and time again, and coming back to win, that’s even more impressive.

All the best, LBJ.

Shakyamuni Buddha and Jesus

Shakyamuni Buddha and Jesus are not only still remembered today, but more impressively, respected even after more than 2000 years. 

Qin Emperor is known today for being the first Emperor of China. But he is born to be an Emperor.

Mozart is well known for being the best musician in history. But he only lived less than 300 years ago. Could there be a forgotten musician that’s 20 times his ability hidden in our history?

Even Genghis Khan and Alexander the Great are famous for their prowess in global domination.

But what about Shakyamuni Buddha and Jesus? They are still loved today because of their teachings more than 2000 years ago.

Will Mark Zuckerberg or Brad Pitt be remembered in 2000 years time? Or will Messi and Lebron James be forgotten as the best footballer and basketball player of 2017 in the year 4017?

Only time will tell.

Sometimes We Just Need to Stop and Think

Have you ever drove on the road late at night. The road is straight and empty. You know the speed limit is 90km/hr. But you just can’t resist going a little faster. 

It’ll help you reach your destination 10 minutes faster. You’ll feel less slow and boring. Then you go a little faster and faster. 

Suddenly, a bright light flashed at the side of the road and you realized that the traffic police has caught you speeding.

Immediately, you feel a big regret. You start to curse the traffic police. You wished that you hadn’t speed. You just got $200 poorer and a few points deducted. You spent the next few nights having difficulties with sleeping. And you’ll find that your life just sucks.

What if, at that moment, where you’re pondering whether to speed, you think of the consequences. Just spend a few seconds to think. Take a deep breath. And stick to the rule? You’ll probably reach home 10 minutes later but you’ll reach home safe and peaceful.

Sometimes, we just need to stop and think. It can applies to many aspects of our daily lives. Littering for convenience sake, cheating during exams, stealing, having an affair with someone else, telling others about others’ secrets, cutting corners at work, etc. What is the consequences? 

Then maybe, we will do the right things right, right?