whenever a heterosexual couple decides to be together and tie the knot, many women feels that they are entitled to a diamond ring and a romantic proposal.
after both got their dream wedding, the wives wants the men to work harder to bring back more dough so their livestyle can be “improved”. the men may get angry as they feel that they should be entitled to docile wives, waiting for them to come home from work, with comforting dinner and a warm bath.
then more demands follows. more holidays, intimacy, less time with own friends, children, cars..
on top of those tangible demands, the couple also demand for non tangible expectations from the partners. better temper, more patience, and even loyalty.
and when one don’t get the above mentions, war breakout. fights, quarrels, infidelity, depressions. finger-pointing and shouting occurs.
the truth is, in a relationship, demands shouldn’t occur at all. loyalty and respect should be mutual.
you may ask,”but she screamed at me for no reasons all the time.” or “he sleeps around while i am busy taking care of the children.” or “he physically abuses me”
a lot of people forget that we have a choice. or rather, we had a choice. we chose this person to be our partner, didn’t we? so what are we complaining about?
“but he/she wasn’t like this before we got married.”
no matter how hard i try to justify, the finger always points back to me.